I don’t know what it feels like to be a hot girl, but I know what it feels like to be a white male in South East Asia. Alright, lets not exaggerate, only in Indonesia did I have such a glories time, whereas all Indonesians, including both men and women, would treat me like royalty just because I was white. Same thing happened to me Thailand, but to much lesser degree. I also heard that in other nearby countries such as Philippines and maybe Myanmar, Vietnam, and Cambodia things could be similar.
So what’s different? For one, looking at such things as dating apps Tinder I was flooded with matches in Asia. In Indonesia, for instance, I got a match with EVERY SINGLE GIRL on Tinder. In Thailand, the ration was every second girl, so not that bad either. Girl also try much more to speak to you and to meet up in person even if they don’t speak English. This makes dating in Europe, in comparison, a complete waste of time.
Real Reasons To Travel
Alright, there are many other reason to traveling than dating. Still, as a solo traveler you have to consider different ways to meet people. You can, for example, stay in hostels, go to special events, or simply say “hello” to a fellow solo travelers as soon as you see them on the streets. One thing is for sure, you may have to put yourself out there, which can be a great way to grow as individual, specially for all the introverts out there.
Another reason to travel is to compare cultures. After all, many differences between groups of people from different countries are attributed to learned behavior which we can call culture. Thus, in some cultures like South East Asia it is a learned behavior to like white folks, while in other places like Japan white people are completely ignored by locals. Thus, by traveling we can look at what our cultures are doing good and what they are doing bad. Here we should not kid ourselves. Our egos may hide ourselves from cold hard truth that we may not be as perfect as we would hope we are and it is only when we see how others live that we can finally see a better way to living, which is facilitated by traveling.
Traveling also made me realize the value of money. In places like Raylay Beach, Thailand, I have paid 1 euro per day to sleep in a bungalow, which was all for myself. The food was not so much more expensive, meaning that if in Europe I spend about 20 euro per day on food and another 20 accommodation, I can live 20 times longer in Thailand with the same money. By thinking in these lines it is easy to realize whenever we are overpaying on some luxuries and when we can save to actually go to places like Asia.
In Europe Life Is Hard…
Going back to Europe, there I am average. There are millions people just like me and despite my ongoing attempts to stand out, get extra treatment, and be liked by people I am treated like a lesser human being just because everyone is doing the same.
I am an average in Europe and average in under appreciated, because there is much of it. Average is just boring. This is to say that if we are bellow an average point we will even occasionally be punished for it. As such, to get a normal treatment people have to act as something special. Similarly, to feel special, we have to be extraordinary, and we all know how hard it is to to be extraordinary.
Take, for example, a movie I watched called Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2. There you have an alien race where every person was designed to be perfect. Yet, despite this perfection, no one is really special and not one gets a special treatment. Is it not funny?
Here we all are trying to be more, to receive a better treatment, and to stand out, but virtually everyone else is trying to do the same. Thus, no one is truly special, but desire for good life always stays with us.
Lets Just Life In South East Asia
Solution comes when we visit a place such as Indonesia where this country has not yet caught up to that crazy high standard of living, such as we have in Western world. Thus, our normal attempts to be cool in Asia are actually perceived as cool, which is actually how it was supposed to be.
But, discrepancy is also felt in other areas of life, such as personal finances, whereas in countries like Indonesia the salary is so much less than in say Netherlands. Indeed, I used to work in a hostel reception job and I asked how much Indonesian hostel receptionists were earning. I almost every case people told me that they earn in a month as much as I earned in a day. Specifically, my average salary per day was around 70-80 euro. For the same work they received 3 euro.
Its Not Fair, But It’s Life
“Is it fair?” – people ask me, when I tell them about this discrepancy between Indonesians and European. The answer is: “Of course not”. There are plenty of countries, or people, who are treated as lesser human being just because of their race, socioeconomic situation, or for any other reason. There are plenty of people who will never opportunity to see the world, or even leave their country, while I am doing it almost for a year straight.
But, even in Europe, I may feel like I live like a kind, but this illusion is gone as soon as I compare myself with other people who have more. This is to say, that we can either always feel bad about ourselves, about what cards our life dealt us, or we can do something about it.
A God Complex – Why Everyone Should Strive To Have It
Thus, why should I feel bad about myself? I never have felt like I was receiving such a great treatment in my life before I came to South East Asia, so why not spoil myself? I mean, looking at my life, I guess most people would be jealous even by western standards, while I don’t think I don’t think it is special, because I am living it.
Indeed, people often complement me on certain things in my life, like my knowledge of 8 languages, but I don’t think its special, because I look at people who speak 10 or 12 languages. In other things, such as playing football, which is considered a “mans sport” I at really bad.
I mean, we are all good at certain things in life and bad at others. The trick is to recognize our strength and our weaknesses and to focus of former case. Practically, it means to do our best to position ourselves in places where we will get the best treatment (such as South East Asia) and to avoid things that will give us dissatisfaction (such as playing football) and problem solved!
Problem In A Paradise – And How To Optimize Experimentation
This is such an easy advice – <<just do what you are good at and don’t do what you are not good at>> AND <<do what you like and don’t do what you don’t like>> yet, so many people don’t follow it. Most people try different things. They see what work and what does not, and they just go back to do whatever they were doing before.
For example, I know a lot of people who tell that they feel great after they finish reading a new book, and how miserable they are after they finished watching TV. Yet, they spend most of the time watching TV and almost never read a book.
Experimentation is important, but if its not producing desired results than we should stop this experiment and move to something new. Reversibly, if experiment works we should stop experimenting and keep on doing what works focusing on other parts of life. In example of my worldly travels, when I don’t like a country I should leave it immediately and if I like it, I should stay there longer, and metaphorically, you should too.
One Minute Homework
To take the most of this story take only one last minute to tell me about when was the last time you did something that you did not want to do AND last time you did not do one thing that you wanted to do. Let me know your reply bellow in comments. Remember, it should take only one minute.
Lastly, this post is about more “Cultural” aspect of traveling. If you want to check how I managed to save enough money for 1 year travel, and you can too, I have a blog post for it too.