I guess, it is worth start by saying that nobody died and I am still healthy. Still, my emotional health was on a line, which all start as accumulation of small problems that have built into a big avalanche.
1st Happiness Advice – If you are alive and healthy this should be condition enough to be happy.
2nd Happiness Advice – We experience small happy and unhappy moments daily. It is only when we have way more / more intense happy or unhappy moments that it really gets to us.
Problem #1 – A water bottle exploded inside my beg, damaging or destroying a book, two chargers, a bank card reading device, and my my Mac Book Pro!
I mean, it sucks to lose a book, chargers, and bank reader, but losing a computer was a low blow, as I use it virtually daily for all my business needs, my financial survival.
I first, I was still positive. I though “it is nothing, easy fixable, and I have a warranty”. I soon discovered that:
1 – water damage is not covered by warranty
2 – mother board / logic board are damaged
3 – it will cost me 500 euro to fix the damage (almost 1/3 of value of my Mac!)
4 – shipping on new pieces takes 3-4 weeks from Singapore – as I was then in Jakarta, Indonesia
5 – my flight was next day to Krabi, Thailand, for which I paid 130 euro nonrefundable
6 – there was no Apple office in Krabi, maybe in Bangkok, but I would have to wait same 3-4 weeks for new parts
3rd Happiness Advice – Don’t panic! The bad things already happened and “if you knew where you would fall you would put a pillow”. Thus, the new best thing to do is to make a logical plan how to deal with the situation
4th Happiness Advice – See negativity in situation, don’t feel the pain. This is more easier said than done, but we need to learn to separate from our emotions and have a clear head if we want to solve our problems
Thus, I made a plan. I decided that having a computer was a priority and that in Singapore I could fix it faster, and maybe even cheaper. So, I decided to fly to cancel my Krabi ticket and fly to Singapore. I rebooked my flight and went on my way.
Problem #8 – Flight got cancelled. I’ve spent 9 hours in the airport waiting for my new flight, not knowing if I would fly or not, but luckily I was rebooked, got more free food than I could eat, and 50$ “transportation voucher” what ever that is.
5th Happiness Advice – See small wins whenever you go. Negative situations will always be there, but so will the positives, which I like to call “duality of life“. In addition, while it may not seem so immediately, all problems that we have actually present advantages. In case of losing phone and PC, I discovered a new freedom of disconnection, that I didn’t have before that allowed to go outside and to read a book.
Problem #9 – I was getting ready for my appointment at Apple store, changing cloth, and taking a shower when my phone slipped from my pocket and felt inside a toilet. I reacted instantaneously, but these few seconds were enough for it to stop working…
And so I am left without any technology, in a foreign country, on the other side of the world from home, completely disconnected and frustrated. I already was looking at 500 euro bill and now another cost that I could not imagine. I could only think of best and the worst.
6th Happiness Advice – Always know the best case scenario in mind and the worst case scenario in everything. Prepare for the benefit and the cost of the both situations, and you never be surprised or disappointed about anything.
So I walked to my appointment and gave away both my Mac and Phone to repairs. My phone was a Samsung, so I had to go to a different company. Surprisingly, Samsung are not at all nice when it comes to customer service:
10 – They told me that in order to repair my phone they would delete all my phone data and that it was non negotiable
11 – I did not have a warranty in Singapore and even if I had it would not cover water damage
12 – Parts for my model would have to be shipped to Singapore from Netherlands (!?!)
13 – I had to essentially give permission to Samsung to do whatever they wanted with my phone, even sell it, if i wanted them to fix it
14 – A damaged parts would have a pricey tag if something would need to be repaired
At least, they would look at it first for 30$ before I knew what is wrong with it. Still, together, that was too much, but I didn’t have a choice. I needed my phone so i gave it away.
To deal with the pain and emptiness I decided to do something to cheer me up. Of course, there is a list of things we can do to deal with a extra negative emotions. I, personally, decided to do some less healthy things, yet more emotionally gratifying things, such as eating chocolate, shopping, and going to cinema. Specially, sugar and movies / series are my biggest addictions. I know them to be so, but I also know them not to be that bad, so occasionally and against better logical judgement I allow myself to do them.
7th Happiness Advice – check my list of things you can do to deal with negative emotions right now here (coming soon).
8th Happiness Advice – take control over your addictions and other negative patterns today here (coming soon).
As the story continues, I only certain that I will pay 500 euro for my laptop and that it will be ready in 2-3 days. I have no information about my phone, yet. Still, I am prepared to buy a new second hand phone if I have to. This is my solution. It will cost me money, but it is only money. The sooner I pay it, they sooner I can get my life back on track.
9th Happiness Advice – pay your price tags as soon as possible. The longer you linger wondering about what to do and how unlucky you are to have problems that you do, the unhappier you will be. Happy and mature people make decisions fast, and continue their lives much happier because of the fact.
Funny enough, I told my friend back in Jakarta what happened. It turn, my friends proclaimed that it was all their fault that my computer and phone got damaged, as they invited me to there in a first place, and if I didn’t come these problems would not happen. My friend was already telling me about problems in life he has, as we all have them, and was claiming that it was some sort of negative aura that he transferred on to me. I tried to convince that person that it was not their fault, but some people are so stuck in their reality they don’t think it is changeable, while it totally is, such as you can see in this story!
9th Happiness Advice – always take responsibility for everything, even the things that are technically are not your fault. This is because once you assume responsibility you can start fixing these problems, whereas before we usually leave them to whoever else we think is responsible.
10th Happiness Advice – Don’t believe in negative energies. This is irrational though, completely unfounded, and unprovable. This is again one way we put responsibility outside our hands. Better to have positive thinking, not because of law of attraction, but because we stop thinking of being a victim and start thinking as of solutions on clear head.
Lastly, I believe that happiness is an art and a science. Indeed, the more we understand happiness and what make us (un)happy, the happier we can be. It is like a puzzle where the more pieces we can get right the happier we become. As such, knowing above mentioned techniques is great, but is not enough if you really want to be happy. For Unconditional Happiness I recommend to see my book for all advice on happiness.